Today I celebrate my 12th wedding anniversary with my precious wife, Amy. I love reminiscing about our courting days. I look back at the way God orchestrated our lives and it left no doubt then and now that He made us for each other. It may not sound like a Disney movie (because I’m certainly not a Prince Charming) but the grace of God is clearly interwoven through our story that I have no problem sharing it with my daughter, others, and those still seeking for that perfect someone.
Our story started from opposite coasts of the United States. Though God had strategically placed people in our lives who knew both of us, it wasn’t until 13 months before we got married that we first met. We couldn’t be more different! But God had a plan.
The purpose of this post is not to share the details of our story. What I do want to share is the game-changing decision that God used to move our story along. This principle will save you – seeking single adult- a truckload of heartache and will keep you from “shopping around” for God’s mate for you.
The principle I’m speaking of is the biblical principle of contentment. We often seek more in our life – money, popularity, power, relationships- when we are no longer content with what we have. And our contentment in life is in direct proportion to our contentment in Christ. Chapter and verse?
Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
We love to quote the last part of that verse but the context has to do with contentment, more specifically contentment in Christ! When we have Christ, regardless of what we have or don’t have, we have everything.
Here’s the point and the principle: Amy and I had to come to a point in our lives when we realized, accepted, and practiced the fact that with or without a spouse, Jesus is enough! A courting relationship wasn’t going to make us love and serve God more; it definitely wasn’t going to make us love and serve Him less. We determined, separately and unbeknownst to each other, that our joy and happiness was based on knowing Christ, His power and His purpose for our lives. And at the time we made the decision, we didn’t even know each other!
I believe the God knew our hearts and that our decision was sincere. He knew that whether He lead us to each other or not, the decision to love and serve Him has been made. This is not to say that the catalyst for God’s moving was our surrender. But I believe that our relationship today is blessed because our foundation wasn’t each others “perfection” but rather our foundation was the Person of the Lord Jesus Christ! There is no better foundation.
Let me conclude with a few questions. If your “prospect” isn’t content with God, Whom he or she cannot see, what makes you think your “prospect” will be content with you, whom he or she can see? If God were to reveal to you that you’d be single for the rest of your life, would you love and serve God less? And if you’re not content with our perfect God now, why would you think you’d be content an imperfect mate?
Remember this, it was God who brought Eve to Adam. Adam didn’t have to look, neither did Eve. Adam didn’t have to make his wife (men, refrain from commenting) and Eve didn’t have to let anyone know that her status is “single and looking.” God orchestrated the meeting and ordained their union.
Seeking single, don’t sweat it! Let God take care of the details and you’ll be able to tell your story to others without guilt and shame someday. I promise you, it is more rewarding than you think.