A Gallup Poll published in May, 2010 found that 69% of Americans see divorce as morally acceptable. In a society of “money back guarantees,” we have treated the marriage institution the same way. If it doesn’t work, get a refund! Guess what- time cannot be bought back and contrary to popular belief the scars of divorce reach further than just the husband and the wife. Someone once said that, “It’s hard to believe that the same people involve in a divorce were at one time so in love.”
And yet to those that choose to follow Christ, the instructions, provisions, and protections for marriage can be readily found in His Word. Yet it is important to remember the words of the Apostle Paul, But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me. The only reason our marriages can survive and even thrive today is because of the grace of our Almighty God!
Eleven years ago, I married my best friend. Our story is a testimony of God’s providence. I am so thankful for His leading. If you’re a single person reading this now, may I encourage you with this thought? Don’t settle for second best! Wait on the Lord’s mate for your life. He will provide one that will be exceeding, abundantly above all that we ask or think. I know because I speak from experience.
When I think about waiting for “the one,” I am reminded of the story of Achan in Joshua 7. The children of Israel were ready to capture the first city after crossing Jordan River, the city of Jericho. Because this was the first city, God wanted the first fruits. Therefore the Lord commanded the armies to take no spoil. Destroy everything and everyone! But Achan had other plans.
When Achan saw, desired, and took an outfit and monies, he committed a trespass against the Lord. This sin did not just affect Achan. It affected his family and his country. This secret sin had public consequences the death of 36 men! Meanwhile, the “things” that Achan took he couldn’t even enjoy. He hid them under his tent. Pitiful!
Likewise, when a person gets ahead of God and fails to give Him the first fruits of his or her life, trouble is the only result. I have seen young people hide their relationships. They lie to people and say, “We’re just friends!” Their actions betray their words. The couple spends all their time justifying their relationship rather than enjoying the blessings of being in a relationship. And eventually, the private relationship yields a poor public reaction. Sounds like Achan!
Young person, wait on the Lord. Give Him your heart. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. When you allow Jesus to sit upon the throne of your heart, He will then send you with the right prince or princess! After all, how can you be content in a human relationship when you’re not even content with Christ alone?