One of the last words Jesus spoke on the cross was, “Behold thy mother.” Somewhat unusual at first glance yet a closer study of God’s Word reveals to us the reason. We know that Jesus did not come into the world to destroy the law but rather He was the fulfillment of the law. The very first commandment that deals with interpersonal relationships is the parent-children relationship. I believe the reason Jesus said the words, “behold thy mother” is to set for as an example of honoring our parents, and in this specific case, honoring our mother. Scholars believe that at this time Joseph has passed away. And now that Jesus was going to be returning to Heaven, He did not want to see His mother without the proper care.
How can we give the proper care to the mothers God has entrusted us with?
Her Spiritual Care
As men, we must not make the mistake of thinking that, because God has called us to lead and provide for our homes, we are the only ones that are busy. According to Salary.com, a mom who has one preschool child works approximately 96.6 hours a week. Taking the number of hours spent as a housekeeper, cook, day care teacher, facilities manager, driver, psychologist, janitor, laundry machine operator, CEO, etc. locally speaking (Gilbert, 85296) she should be making $114,392 annually. Wow!
And yet if we are not careful, Mom can be so exhausted from all her work that she neglects her spiritual needs. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5 that as husbands we must sanctify our wives by the washing of water by the Word. This is important so that we can present her to the Lord holy and without blemish. Husband, what are you doing to spiritually nourish your wife? She cannot be a godly wife without spending time with God; likewise, she cannot be a godly mother without spending time with God. Protect her time by helping out and properly training your children to honor the time she must spend with the Lord.
Her Social Care
As a husband, I know that Amy is my best friend and I am hers. That’s the foundation of our relationship, humanly speaking. However, there are times she needs to just be around others friends. Your friendship is not threatened when this happens; it simply allows her to let her hair down and enjoy listening to other moms running around chasing their little ones.
Sometimes, this care is provided by taking her on a date, without the children! A romantic restaurant, a picnic at the park, a walk in the mall are all great ways to socially care for her. When she starts “baby talking you” it’s time for a date!
By the way, don’t just care for mom on “Mothers’ Day.” Everyday should be “Mothers’ Day!” Acts of kindness on a daily basis will go a long way in ensuring that your relationship with your wife stays strong as well as her relationship with your kids.